Hiya! A little bit about me, and why I'm here, so that we have some great things to talk about when we get to know each other:
I feel like good, consensual, non-sexual cuddling is one of the healthiest things people can get up to, and it's only unclear or unspecified expectations that take comfortable social intimacy and turn it into uncomfortable other kinds of intimacy.
Cuddling is tied into the beneficial elements of frequent touch, and subsequent release of oxytocin, which is spectacular for wellness as a whole. Studies have shown many known benefits, such as improved mood, decreased anxiety, help with trauma recovery, and pain management for chronic sufferers. It can lower the effects of stress on your body, be an effective anti-depressant, and can help form connections and trust between social partners. I feel that anything promoting connections between people like this, if indulged in a healthy way, is something worth striving for.
It is because of these reasons and many others that I hope to become a Cuddle Party Facilitator some day, and if you're curious about that, please feel free to ask!
To support this approach to meeting and matching with people, it's important to establish some boundaries at the outset. These are firm boundaries, which means they will always stand in some form, but there can always be growth and change in our friendship which may result in a shift. That being said, assume that these things always stand, and we'll go from there:
The reality of physical closeness is that, sometimes, your body doesn't exactly listen to you on the autonomic side of things. I can understand and appreciate that, but how you choose to handle it says a lot about you. Cuddling with me is meant to be intimate, but non-sexual, so if you can't reign in your impulses and at least be mannerly about your arousal, it won't work out and it won't continue. Actual chemistry that develops with us may change how we choose to deal with these kind of situations, but the premise is, and will always be, that it's cuddling, not mating, so you should never be surprised when that's all I'm willing to share.
Trust is important to me: treat me with respect, honesty and courtesy, and I will do the same for you. If you have needs, or concerns, not being addressed, share them with me and I will make sure to move forward with you, aware of those things. That doesn't mean that I will cater to your needs, or bend for your concerns, but if it's reasonable, comfort things, we can always work things out. If you have boundaries you don't want impressed on, make sure I know about them, because I can't fix it if I don't know about it. I won't go digging around, either, so share what you are comfortable with.
Finally, and perhaps most importantly, I insist on a public, in-person meet up before anything might happen. This is for both my safety and yours, and to make sure there's a good chemistry without any untoward or uncomfortable expectations. We should know each other, don't you think? I look forward to making your acquaintance, and love a good cup of coffee.
I don't currently have a space to host in, so please take that into account when you message me. Thank you for reading, and I hope to hear from you soon.